Tuesday, 3 May 2011

AlFresco Sex

As the warmer weather is becoming more consistent it is natural for us to take some of our usual indoor activities with us; whether these are consuming of food, playing on a laptop, reading, drinking, and yes even sex.

There are many theories to why we have a desire to perform intercourse outside. It’s rather natural for humans to have sex outside historically due to overcrowding living conditions. Only in recent times that there has been more of a risk factor to performing intercourse outside due to UK legislation. UK legislation does not actually have laws in place to prevent you from having sex outdoors but laws preventing you from causing public distress and indecency. As long as you and your partner keep things away from public view you will not be breaking the law in most cases. It is worth noting that even if you are caught with underwear coving both you and your partner’s genitals that this is against the law. As well as the sexual offense act 2003, there is one more law to take into account. Trespassing, many of the places you believe are public are actually private property where the public act as guests. This can include national trust area, smaller woodlands, fields, graveyards, public parks. Yes in a lot of these areas you have public right of way, but different areas will have their own bylaws from no cycling, to being permitted to stop and admire the view. So if you are wishing to combined a trip out for sex with a picnic it is best to check first if you are even allowed to picnic there so you draw less attention.

Other than the minor risk factor; outside sex has a bit more going for it in the forms of stimuli. Whether you find the scent of certain blossoms, the feel of fresh grass stroking your skin, the natural noises, a particular scene you choose due to it prompting fun memories. These all aid as natural aphrodisiacs and tend to help heighten your senses. You may be thinking that normally you use all your five sense (touch, taste, sound, smell, look) perfectly when performing sexual intercourse but some researchers claim that we tend to shut most of them off during sex and only focus on touch. When having sex outside in a new environment it is more likely to open up your sensory awareness especially as the scents and scenery is forever changing.

Here are a few environment suggestions for al fresco sex:

Woodlands: Going on a romantic walk with your partner can be a great way to relax by itself and can lead to slight sexual frustration if it’s particularly long. Why not stray from the footpath, in a woodland you will find many enclosed areas surrounded by trees where you can happily have sex with your partner without anyone finding you. Sometimes in woodlands you won’t even need to look this hard especially currently with the bluebells and other shrubs in blooms. In a lot of woodlands you can find large field with these flowers growing rather tall that you could easily get away with having sex in missionary position. Just look out for nettles.

Mazes: Why not go to a maze on a day out; make sure you don’t pick one of the seasonal holidays though. One of you could go into the maze before while your partner has to search for you. To keep the heat going you could text message one another with location hints and sexual teasing.

Strawberry picking: There are many places round the UK which offer a pick your own fruit. Often most of these are very larger and one can get lost easily. You will have to be careful of the land owners/ workers but there only tends to be a few working at one time. You can sneakily feed each other some of the fruit while performing a quick sexual act.

Parks: This one I only recommend if it isn’t used often and preferably at night, it is bad enough to be caught by an adult let alone their kids as well. From 69ing on the bottom of the slide to performing blowjobs while on a swing, playground apparatus can be turned into your own midnight sex furniture.

Graveyards: Some people may find it disgraceful to perform sexual acts in a graveyard but the atmosphere can be very arousing, especially if you are after that adrenalin rush from supernatural goosebumps. It is worth noting that graveyards are private land where the public are welcome to visit so you are best to use the one’s which are out of the way or not connected with a church on the grounds. Also look out of thistles they can be very painful and will even tear through good leather or pvc.

These are a few of the more unusual place suggestions; of course there are the traditional alleyways, beaches, bus shelters, and many more.

There are a few additional items you can take with you when having outdoor sex such as a blanket, 5ml lubricant sachet, a tin to put things in with maybe a bullet, wet wipes and tissues, and a bottle of water and some sweets for an energy boost. Clothing will depend on how discrete a place you pick. A bodystocking under a skirt and a button/ zip top is a good option if you don’t want to get fully naked.

One other thing I would like to note. If you are going to try outdoor sex with a partner please keep the environment clean. Clean up where needed and don’t leave that condom wrapper on the floor as really it’s not pleasant to find. 

This really was just thrown together, still more to write.....

Sunday, 1 May 2011

Naked Introduction

It’s been a long time since I’ve contributed to a blog of any form; for this reason I must warn you I may not take the time to writing within it often.

So here I go.... I’m Ness and some of you may know me as ‘The nymphomaniac’. I Actually choose that user name mainly as I love studying about sex and have found psychological studies into nymphomania rather fascinating, but I apparently according to the NHS doctors actually ‘suffer’ from it as a condition. It’s really just a load of notes within my medical record which a doctor decided to label me with, so I often tend to now ignore it as a condition and just get along with things. 

So by now I’m guessing you know I really enjoy sex. I actually enjoy sex so much in regards to experiencing and learning ever since I was 15 I’ve wanted to write or work as a sexologist, sex psychologist, or even a sex ed teach. I’m currently having a break from my psychology degree and really don’t think any of those career choices will happen in the long run. It’s not that the degree isn’t hard; I actually found it too easy and stopped as soon as I was asked to fill in for teacher and help with lessons. So I got scared and ran from it. I’m now thinking I would enjoy maybe neuroscience more but that’s another story.

Relationship wise I’m not really a monogamist though admire people who are. I did try and have a monogamist relationship with a man training to be a vicar, we were engaged and basically it ended rather badly. Due to this I’m now unwelcome at the local churches. I basically then went straight into a relationship with my current partner who I did live with for some time but it actually worked out finically better to live apart. We have been together 5 years now I believe. This is where it’s get complicated as in the past I have had lovers and still do have a few. My partner has consented that he’s fine with me having lovers. I think it’s better to ask when it comes to taking on lovers rather than being secretive, if he had said no I wouldn’t have done it and would have left it in the realms of fantasy. 

 As far as lovers go I am very picky. I haven’t had many but have had more long term lovers. It’s nice to relax with a lover, be taken on holiday, have gifts purchased, or just to talk with. Every now and again though things have gone too far and a lover gets too close. I was actually asked by one of my lovers to marry him, sadly I had to decline and even though I should have cut all ties off then and there we still chat as we are now very good friends. Due to this I’m trying to slowly stop having lovers as even when you make it clear and set the rules sometimes they don’t work and emotionally can be very hard for everyone.

I do have other interests other than it all being sex related. *thinks* I really like martial arts and running, enjoy pyrotechnics and would love to do a course, I also collect weaponry. Not really overly feminine but I do seem to enjoy wearing dresses, corsets, pretty shoes and have long hair.

I Think I may have rambled a little too much; hopefully my next’s blogs will gain some structure. I guess it just proves introductions are hard even when writing to an anonymous audience.
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